By Estrella Mendoza ’17
“First Dates are like job interviews. Good impressions count. Awkwardness can occur. Outcomes are unpredictable.”
Every true love has to start from somewhere, like a date. First dates can be as magical as fairy tales or sometimes even disastrous. First dates can also be nerve-wracking: finding the perfect outfit, place, or even the perfect person. No matter how old you are, first dates are pressure moments. “You become self conscious, anxious, a poor listener, and abrupt speaker.”
When asked what her ideal first date is, Lizbeth Marquez ,a senior, responded, “ I don’t want anything fancy. I would prefer a walk in the park while eating some ice cream. I want to feel comfortable with my date, and I want us to be ourselves.” However, some people like something more fancier. Lizbeth Martinez, a freshman, explained that she would like her date to take her to “a fancy restaurant where both are able to enjoy the food.” It all depends on what your date prefers.
First dates are memorable. It’s when first impressions are made. “The first impression you make endures forever. That being said, if you make a poor first impression you might not get the chance to make another one.”
However, don’t freak out! Here are some tips for the ideal first date:
Develop an interesting conversation. Make yourself a good conversationalist while still investigating the person a bit.” Balance eye contact. According to a Psychological Science study, if you make eye contact for too long, the other person might see that as forced dominance. “You don’t really want to appear too dominant and controlling, but still need to maintain the confidence that comes from solid eye contact. The recommended right amount of eye contact is about 5-7 seconds at a time.
Be a good listener. The more you focus on asking the other person questions, the more you’ll learn about them and know if they are the perfect match for you.
Be Flexible. So you hate chinese food and they made a reservation in a Chinese restaurant? What do you do? You deal with it. You don’t want to look like a spoil brat. Appreciate the fact that the other person actually took time to plan something nice for you.
Most importantly, Be yourself. You want your date to know who you really are. If they don’t like who you are, then they are not worth your time and you should move on. Don’t hide your qualities for anyone. Be proud of who you are. There’s someone out there who is your other half.
First dates are memorable, so don’t forget to have fun.